Myanmar Traditional Wedding Ceremony
Since the time of birth until they become adults, Myanmar
celebrate 12 auspicious occasions. We are now going to present, one
of these 12 auspicious occasions, “ The wedding ceremony ”. When a
boy and a girl come of age and, love one another and will want to
marry and live happy ever after, a wedding ceremony will be
performed for them where their parents, relatives, honourable guests
and friends are invited, so that they will be recognized as a newly
married couple. This wedding ceremony we present, celebrated
according to Myanmar Traditions and computable to the modern age.
As marrying is a once in a life time occasion, Myanmar women
regard the wedding ceremony very seriously, and you can be sure the
bride will be having cold feet, butterflies in her stomach and
perspiration on her forehead as she faces this very special day of
her entire life. On this day of matrimony, it's a custom for the
bride's family: parents, brothers and sisters, to dress her up in
the finest of attire and bedeck her with the best jewelleries they
can afford.
With her hip-length jacket….long-length silk or satin “
htain-me-thein”, the bride looks somewhat like a princess of the
Royal Court in the olden days of the Myanmar kings. And the
bridegroom surely looks elegant an handsome in this traditional
Myanmar men's attire which consists of a head-dress called “ gaung
baung”, a long sleeve stiff collared shirt, a double length men's
silk longyi called a “ taung shay longyi”, a traditional men's
jacket and a velvet slipper.
It's a very encouraging and practical custom for the friends and
relatives who attend the nuptial ceremony to shower the couple with
gifts such as household items and personal affects that will help
the marrying couple get on their feet with their life-long journey.
To watch parents of the bride and bridegroom heartily welcoming
their guests with smiles and handshakes, and observe the wedlock
couple give away thank-you card will you warm-up to these delightful
traditional customs. The wedding hall is filling up with the invited
guests….and as it was the custom in the days of our king to
entertain guests with the traditional glass mosaic embedded
gold-gilded Myanmar Orchestra. Nowadays, due to time changes, guests
are entertained with modern musical instruments. Guests are arriving
in full swing; time for the wedding couple to appear is drawing
near. You can be sure the bride and groom hearts are beating much
faster.
The Master of Ceremony, the person who will consecrate the
marriage is now announcing the beginning of the ceremony. Then
later, after having recited a special written stanza on the bridal
families and shower poetic praises on the bride and groom and then
end-up with blessings for the couple to have life-long union and
prosperity…at that time the most experienced singer from the band
will begin to sing the classical auspicious song, praising the
occasion and the participants, a song that befits the occasion.
The flower-girl dips her hand into the silver bowl she’s holding
and gently scatter the flowers with the nuptial couple following
behind, thread on these flowers, which are meant as good omen, for
their life-long union as husband and wife. This is the moment
everyone has been waiting for. Now everyone’s attention is drawn
towards the couple who are walking down the carpeted lane of the
hall this is the auspicious moment! The bride and groom has entered
the ceremonial hall, attended by their bestmen and bridesmaids
followed by their parents. Upon reaching the stage and before
seating themselves, they turn towards the guests and with hands
clasped together; pay their respects with their heads bowed. The
garlanding of the auspicious couple is one of the auspicious customs
in Myanmar weddings. In ancient days, it was the custom for the
bride and groom to garland each other, but nowadays a couple with a
long martial standing and of only one marriage, bestows the garlands
on the couple, including the wedding rings!
After the wedding rituals are completed…. the guests are treated
to refreshments offered by the couple. The married couple warmly
greets and thanks the guests who have attended their wedding. The
guests in return, bestow on the couple their best wishes, for
prosperity and a long and happy married life! After the wedding
ceremony, when the married couple arrives home, they pay their
respects to parents of both side, according to traditional Buddhists
customs, and in turn are blessed by their parents. The “ gei-bo”
negotiating begins once the couple tries to enter their brided
chamber which by then is blocked by rows of friends and relatives,
holding gold chains asking for “ gei-bo” which is pocket-money. A
lot of boisterous bargaining and negotiating follows until both
sides agree to a negotiated amount. After passing through this last
obstacle, the married couple will carry on with their life in
building a long lasting and happy marriage for themselves!
Wedding Ceremony by Offering Food & Alms to The Sangha
On auspicious occasions, offertory is dedicated to Lord Buddha
and the assemblage of celestials. The offertory usually contains
three or five hands of bananas, one coconut and Eugenia sprigs. The
auspicious wedding ceremony by offering food and alms to the Sanghas
is also no exemption.
In fact, bride and groom work hand in hand untiringly to prepare
food and other alms for the Sanghas, setting adorable tradition in
itself.
Elders from both sides offer sumptuous food and snacks to the
Sanghas.
The bride and groom offer food, robe and other alms with the firm
belief that it is the harbinger of auspicious and happy life for the
future.
It is also unforgettable for the couple to prepare and stuff a
silver bowl with cash and confetti for the ceremony.
The Sanghas grace the new home by reciting Parittas to ensure
good luck and happiness.
The Sanghas deliver sermons to the gathering, blessing the
newly-weds and sharing their meritorious deeds.
To commemorate the successful wedding ceremony, cash and confetti
are strewed among the attendees.
The guests happily pick up the cash to keep as amulet, which will
ward-off the bad and bring in good fortune.
It is a joyous and auspicious occasion for the newly-weds to
begin their family life eternally in accord with Myanmar tradition.
And it has become the solemn duty of the newly-weds to enrich human
society as a wedded couple. They surely will enrich Myanmar way of
life and we do hope so.
Court Marriage Ceremony
There are also court marriages usually performed by judges
ranging from township to Supreme Court Justices, depending on the
wish and accessibility the partners. Wherever the wedding is
performed, the couple wants to show and receive acceptance from
society that they are eligible and duly married before respectable
personages. Here we are presenting the court marriage of a youthful,
vibrant and beauteous couple. Not so large a number of guests have
already gathered, as the ceremony is to commence soon.
Court marriage requires judge as well as witnesses. The wedding
ceremony we are presenting now has the good fortune of having the
presiding judge and the witnessing law officer, both of whom are
accompanied by their wives. Firstly the bride signed her signature
to two copies of the marriage documents and the groom-followed suit.
After the witnesses signed, the judge gave his blessing and best
wishes and signed in the document and the court register. Thus, the
couple became husband and wife legally. With the successful
conclusion of the ceremony, the invited guests are having
refreshments offered by the newly wed couple. Henceforth, the new
couple is going to raise a happy family.
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